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Working Late – ADVICE FROM YOU!

I haven’t had one of these “Please help!” posts in a while. Maybe because we’re feeling more settled in our marriage and we don’t have as many moments that leave us thinking, “I wonder how other people figure this stuff out…” Or maybe because life has been so crazy focused on our house and work that we haven’t had a lot of time to really dig deep in these marriage issues that sometimes come up.

As I write this, Hubs is still not home from work on a Friday night. He’s worked long hours all week. And all last week. And the week before that.

We were gone all last week because he had to work out of town. I went with him hoping to spend some quality time together during the evenings and on the weekends, but even that time was mostly filled with him responding to emails, finishing projects on his laptop while I read, or him needing to go to bed early so he could get up early and do it all over again the next day.

I love that he loves his job. And I’m so thankful he can do something he enjoys (mostly!) to support our little family and help us have this beautiful home we love.

I even like that he sometimes has work to do at home. I don’t mind reading quietly or working on projects of my own for an hour or so of an evening if he has work to do. It’s nice to be able to sit quietly with our own projects and still just be there with each other.

But I’m at a loss as to what to do to help him relax when he comes home and has time to unplug from the day or week he’s had.

Don’t get me wrong, we still enjoy our evenings together, but lately, I can tell work’s been on his mind more than before. I know every job is a different situation and there are certain times when we need to be accessible by email and phone. But I’m just wondering how we decide what things are “work-free” zones and how to best really commit to being present in those moments when work is always in the back of our mind?

So, friends, tell me, what are your best tips for helping your honey relax when he can’t stop thinking about work? And how do you find the balance between work and play and time at home?

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A day “with” Hubs

So, yesterday was an interesting day for me.

First, I had to fast all Tuesday night and yesterday morning because I was going to have some blood drawn Wednesday morning for my lab work (for health insurance purposes).

This meant I woke up all cranky and hungry.

(Aka: Hangry)

But it was also sort of a fun day because I got to ride into work with Hubs and spend the day with him.

Sort of.

I mean, we rode into work together, I went to do my labs while he went to work. Then I ran a few errands and chilled at a nearby Panera for awhile until it was time to go get him and go to lunch.

We had our first ever weekday lunch date out.

(Once last year, I brought a sack lunch and we ate at Hubs’ desk together but this was different.)

It was super yummy as we went to Smokin’ Guns BBQ. (My first time going there, but not for Hubs. He’s been telling me how awesome it was since the first time he went there almost 2 years ago.)

And then I took him back to work and headed to a nearby library where I sat and chilled and worked on some writing assignments until it was time to pick him up again at 3:45 so we could drive to another work campus because he had a meeting there.

And then I sat in the cafeteria of that building while he went to his meeting until he came back out to get me, when we left, headed to Panera for some dinner, and then to a friend’s house to watch Sporting KC beat the New York Red Bulls.

All in all, it was a fun day, considering I interacted with all sorts of people and I usually don’t talk to anyone all day except through email, or maybe my mom on the phone. Plus, I got to eat at Panera twice. All for about $2, thanks to their rewards program and a gift card I had leftover from my birthday.

But I think the thing I noticed most about the day we spent “together” was how fast it went. Yes, it was kind of broken up into sections, but even the long chunks of time I had to myself to spend writing seemed to fly by.

Hubs agreed.

So now I’m wondering if it was just because the day was something out of our normal routine or if seeing each other in the middle of the day for lunch can really have that much of an impact of how the long middle-of-the-week-workday can drag on. And on. and on.

Like today, for instance.

Because it has taken forever to reach 5:00pm today.

What?

It’s only 2:30?

WHAT? How is that possible?

See what I mean?

Well, now it’s your turn. What makes your days go by faster? Have you ever snuck a lunch date into a busy week to make things go by faster? 

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I finished my first big work project today!

Today Hubs picture-messaged me a picture of his left hand while I was at work.

The caption:

“In case you forgot what it looks like to be married to me…”

He’s so clever.

And cute.

I’m a lucky lady.

Anyway, back to the project.

You guys know I’m doing my internship, and that it’s been okay.

I had a big project due tomorrow though, so I’ve been really busy making phone calls and taking notes and writing and rewriting and organizing and all that other awesome stuff.

I’m not kidding, I really do think it’s awesome.

It’s great to feel like I’m doing something worthwhile. It’s amazing to feel I’m growing and improving and learning.

Yes, I feel overwhelmed sometimes and that I have no idea what I’m doing, but this project made me feel a lot better about the whole thing.

Of course, there will probably be a change of feeling about all this because I’ll get the comments and questions back from the editors in a couple days. Yikes.

But I’ll worry about that later.

For now, I’m going to be proud and happy and content with the day of work I put in, thankful for the opportunity, and tired from all the phone interviews.

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Working Woman

Please note: The title of this post is not titled “Career Woman,” as I do not think my career will be defined by answering phones, making appointments, and attempting to organize the chaos of a busy shop on a busy day. However, I do like my job.

But, that being said, remember this post, when I was all optimistic about my new job?

Well, it’s not that I’m not still happy about the opportunity to make some money or that I dislike my job or the people I work with. It’s that when I work double shifts, like the past 2 days, I don’t see Hubs very much!

He gets up and goes to work, leaving by 7:20 or so. I usually am also up, making his lunch, sometimes making breakfast, sometimes struggling to keep my eyes open, but it’s not exactly quality time when I’m barely awake and he’s rushing to get out the door on the way to work.

But then I don’t see him until I get home at 9:15 or 9:30 (just because we close at 9, doesn’t mean I can leave at 9) and Hubs is usually tired and ready for bed by 10:15 or so. Not much quality time there.

Plus, I still need to adjust to not being home as much. I left the house with a pile of clean laundry on the floor that needed to be folded on Tuesday, and a messy MESSY kitchen on Wednesday.

Not that I think I need to always have a spotless home. Trust me, it’s usually a bit messy. And I don’t vacuum or mop our floors nearly enough. I do try to keep the dishes under control though, because we don’t have much kitchen to spare, and I like to fold the laundry right away so it doesn’t get wrinkled. I’m sure you guys understand this stuff, right?

And you’ll all be happy to know that Hubs has been super awesome this crazy work week for me. He made dinner on Saturday, Tuesday, and last night, though it was separate dinners last night since we didn’t eat together. He cleaned the kitchen on Monday night, including unloading the dishwasher, which I hate to do.

And he’s just been altogether a great helper and friend to me. As he should be as my husband.

I’m not trying to brag on him too much or show off my skills in selecting a great man. I’m also not trying to guilt him into doing more of this stuff (yes he reads all my posts) because honestly, I like doing all these things around the house (except the floors and the unloading of the dishwasher). It’s just that as my “helpmate suitable,” he knows when I need and want help and is willing to fill my bucket in that way.

(For more on what I think about helpmates, read this post.)

So, since I now have less that an hour before I have to be at work, I need to get up and get going. Dressing up for work every day is fine, except that it takes me a lot longer to get ready than I’ve been used to. Not that I don’t try to look nice for everyday stuff with Hubs, it’s just that it takes time to put on eye make up and put together a new outfit every day. I’m out of practice at all this, after all!

So while I’m trying to not complain at all about this job, I am so looking forward to a weekend off to take a little trip. We’ll have time to see friends, eat cookies, talk in the car (no radio after all, remember?), see lots and lots of glorious Christmas lights, hang out with my family, shop for presents, and eat out, though mostly, I’m just excited for a little husband and wife quality time together to just be us and relax and have fun doing things we used to love when we were dating. (And some things we didn’t do while we were dating!)

It’s going to be spectacular. But I have to get through the next double shift at work. Wish me luck!

 

 

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A new adventure to tackle…work.

First of all, THANKS for all the great Christmas feedback! You guys have given some great advice on the questions I asked yesterday. If you have other insight, please share it! It’s not too late!

Next, I think it’s time I reveal that I am no longer unemployed! Woo hoo! Actually, I haven’t been unemployed for awhile because I’ve been doing some part-time freelance writing (writing is my passion, and getting paid to do that is such a blessing!). But today was my first day of training at a new part-time position close to our apartment. I won’t go into too much detail yet, but it’s a specialized retail position and I think I’ll really enjoy my time there.

Is it my dream job? No, I already told you that writing was my passion. But I am excited about this opportunity to learn new skills and make some money to put into savings (Hubs and I are hoping to buy a house in the next year or so…) and I really do think I’ll have fun with this. And it will get me out of the house so I’m not stuck inside during the cold and snowy winter months when I can’t go running and I have cabin fever. Plus, it does fall into the category of giving me experience in an area I’d eventually love to write about, so if nothing else, I can use this as training for a possible future opportunity, right? Right.

This is my "I just got hired" face!

As you can see, I’m pretty upbeat about the whole thing, though I admit, I was so used to being rejected and ignored that when they hired me, I was a bit shocked! In fact, I drove to the bank and then to Wal-mart totally hyped up and dazed, just wishing 5 o’clock would get here so I could tell Wyatt about it.

I’m super thankful for the opportunity and while I felt a little like I was “giving up” on my dreams of being a writer, I have realized I shouldn’t see it that way. Not only am I still doing the freelance work, I’m also going to keep looking for something more permanent and in my career field. I know I have a lot to learn and a lot to offer someone in the future. So I need to continue to seek that out while taking advantage of this opportunity right now.

(P.S. Did anyone notice how green my eyes look in that picture above? Wow. I thought they were turning a bit darker, but maybe not. And the flash doesn’t show the yellow, but trust me, the yellow sunflowers are there, just ask Hubs.)

Sorry for that aside.

So, because of this new job, Hubs beat me home from work today and had the oven all preheated for dinner (leftovers from this night. Yum) I have a feeling that if I’m not home during the day, we’ll need some adjustments. I’ll have to get used to doing more housework at night when Hubs is here, and Hubs will have to start doing more of that, too…If he wants clean underwear to put on every morning.

(I joke with him that the laundry fairy visits his dresser during the day to fill it up…but if the laundry fairy is busy at work, those visits might get fewer and far between!)

It’s not that I mind doing the housework, I really don’t. I like being able to serve our little family in that way. It’s my way of staying busy and “doing my part” since I’ve been home all day anyway. And I’m sure Hubs will have no problem doing more around here. After all, before we got married, he was used to doing all that for himself anyway. In fact, I’m actually kind of excited to settle into this newer pace in our relationship. I think it will feel more long-term, since the whole time I’ve been home has been a little like I’ve just been waiting for my “real” life to start. (Not that being a housewife hasn’t been “real” life, or won’t someday be my “real” life again, but as a newlywed with no kiddos, I’ve just been expecting to go to work someday. And that someday finally came.)

And, now that I’m home from work and dinner is done and Hubs is settled in on the couch, I think I’ll get up from my lap top, do the dish (yes, just one, aren’t leftovers nice?) and then make some hot tea, and find a new craft to do tonight. Anyone have suggestions for cheap, easy Christmas crafts you like to do?

Before I do that, though, I wanted to mention the chance to vote for me to win a Top Ten Marriage Blog Award over at Stupendous Marriage. It’s an honor to be nominated and I’m very grateful for all of the readers and support I’ve gotten since July. It really is great to belong to this blogging community of people committed to and interested in marriage, or just those that like to follow along with our adventures in figuring out married life.

So thanks for reading! And if you like it here (I hope you do!), I’d appreciate if you’d go vote! It’s pretty quick and easy. Just go here. and follow the instructions. Or click the little blue and green Top Ten Finalist button on the top right of the page. Thanks in advance!

 

 

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Confessions of a Bad Housewife…or rather, a happy one

I try to be pretty positive overall, but sometimes, I just need to get my complaints out in the open so I can move on.

So, in order to satisfy both my need to whine a little and my desire to be happy and joyful in all circumstances, I’m going to list pairs of both bad AND good stuff for you guys this Monday morning. We’ll consider it an exercise in finding the silver lining of any situation.

1. I do so much laundry! I’m unsure how a household of only two people can make this much dirty laundry! What will it be like when we have kids? It’s a good thing we (and by that I mean, “I”) have so many clothes because it means I don’t have to wash everything as often. Wyatt runs out of stuff so fast I have to keep washing and washing and washing…

That's a mountain of laundry for me to fold. Good grief!

The good part of this complaint? Well, I actually like to do laundry. I mean, I wouldn’t pick that over fun stuff like playing games or date nights or sleeping in, but as far as household chores go, it’s not a bad deal. I like things that show immediate progress, and I like how fast I can empty our hamper with just a few loads. Folding is the worst part because I don’t like turning clothes right-side out. I’m working on having Wyatt turn his before they go in the hamper, but even I sometimes don’t mess with turning sweaty workout clothes right side out. Anyway, I also like laundry because it smells nice (when it’s done) and it’s warm. I wish I could curl up in laundry fresh from the dryer and take a nap.

2. Cleaning the kitchen is a never-ending job. I don’t know how it gets so messy so fast.

Actually, I do. It’s because I cook a lot and our kitchen is tiny. And yes, we have a dishwasher, which is great, but it doesn’t really work that well. We end up having to pre-wash everything anyway, and still not everything comes clean, especially silverware…and plates…and cups.

Yes, apparently today I am baring all to show you my messy kitchen.

But the good part of a messy kitchen? It means we ate well, we have good food, and a place to cook. I love to cook and bake and cleaning the kitchen is sort of calming (when I’m not in a hurry to make the next meal or wash a dish so I can keep working on whatever meal I’m currently fixing) and I actually don’t mind washing dishes. I wish we had better scrubbing brushes (we are using cheap sponges that we wash all the time in our washing machine so they are starting to fall apart).

3. It’s too early (Wyatt says) to decorate our apartment for Christmas. And he’s right. But I’m impatient. I wish I had money to go buy a lot of new beautiful things or even supplies to make things, but I think it’s more important that we save right now, especially with the holidays coming up.

But the blessing of this? I decorated for Thanksgiving. Sort of, as much as I can for relatively free.

Fruit in our cool bowl from the in-laws and pumpkins, free from my grandma's garden.

Not super creative, but I don’t have anything else, and these were free (except the apples…)

What I did spend my money on, decor-wise.

It’s a free design from eighteen25, a cool blog I found on Pinterest. Speaking of that? Do you follow me?

I just bought a cheap wood frame from Walmart for $4 and painted it white with leftover paint from our wedding DIY projects. And the candlestick? It was a prop for my Miss Scarlet costume that Hubs spray painted white for me.

And the bird? He’s our (my) love bird. I found him at a local garage sale one day when I was running in the neighborhood by our apartment. He’s exactly what I wanted. I know he isn’t fall-themed, but I still like him and didn’t want to remove him from his roost.

4. Wyatt forgot his lunch. Again.

Dangit.

Not only do I feel bad for not noticing until after he left, but it means he has to buy his lunch today when we have this perfectly good one here at home.

But the hidden silver lining? I will have this one ready tomorrow morning already. And he doesn’t mind buying lunch, he actually likes that better I think.

5. I had to put the spider traps back down today since I forgot to have Wyatt do it. Touching those things gives me the creeps? Why? Because they both have like 5 dead poisonous spiders in them!

There's 5 or so dead spiders "living" under our hamper...but don't worry, when we have guests, we hide them away.

But the good part is that I haven’t seen any new spiders in there or anywhere for months. Though I did kill a wasp in our bathtub the other day. Ick.

6. This is my coffee table at it’s current state.

See that stack of bills and other mail to take care of? Oh joy.

But that’s okay, because my Husband is off at work today to earn the money to pay those bills, and you know what? I opened my first check from freelancing today. So, yes, I am blessed today to pay these bills, because for the first time in a long time, I have income.

(“But my God shall supply all your needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19)

And while we’re talking money, you know what else? I fed Mr. Giraffe E. Pig seventeen cents a couple of days ago. And a twenty-five cents the day after that.

 

This is Mr. Giraffe E. Pig. I like to feed him pennies, but he prefers quarters, of course.

Saving cents is one of my favorite pastimes.

So there’s my list for the day. I’m feeling better all ready. Because yes, I got out my Monday morning grumps, but I also took the time to look past the problems and see some good stuff, because let’s face it, there’s always more good stuff if you choose to find it, right?

And what’s even better? As I was sitting at home this morning, I realized what a blessing it is that I can stay here and take care of our home. I have the blessing of not doing laundry on the weekends if I don’t want to, because I can do it on Monday. And I don’t have to do dishes on Sunday nights if I don’t want to, because they’ll be there in the morning and I’d rather spend Sunday nights on the couch cuddling with my Hubs.

Yes, it’s been hard to figure out how to redefine my place in the world with no job, but I’m getting there, and every day brings new possibilities, whether it’s volunteer work, or a freelancing job. And I’m trusting in the sovereignty of the Master’s plan.

What about you? What are you seeing the silver lining in today? Any housekeeping confessions you’d like to share to make me feel better about my mess this morning?

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