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Tears of Joy

Well guys, the big one year anniversary officially came and went without a lot of hoopla or fanfare. I had expected lots of joyous, silly celebrating, but we had none of that.

And you know what? I’m perfectly fine with that.

Don’t get me wrong, we’re still going to celebrate again on Saturday in a combined celebration for my birthday and some other stuff.

We had some personal things that kept us from celebrating the way we would have preferred last night so we just decided to go out to a relaxing dinner, something fun and casual, and then save the real “special” stuff until the weekend.

(Although eating out on a Monday certainly is special on our budget!)

So on the one year anniversary of the day we got all dressed up and fancy and said our vows, we both went to work (or worked from the couch, in my case) and then some pretty awesome burgers that I tried to share with you via photo, but my phone internet isn’t cooperating so you’ll just have to take my word for it.

And then we went home.

We were full. We were tired. We decided to take a short nap before dessert.

Spoiler alert: We never made it to dessert.

We were both so tired that we ended up sleeping longer than we’d planned, and by the time we got up, we were still feeling full and weren’t in the mood for any more celebrating.

I’ll admit it, I was bummed.

I felt we’d wasted our anniversary. It was the only first anniversary we’ll get and we’d slept part of it away!

But then, as Hubs hugged me and I could see the hurt in his eyes because he thought he’d let me down, I realized it didn’t matter at all how or when we celebrated. Having each other for a whole year already and a lifetime to come is what we should be celebrating every day, not just today. That’s where the joy should be coming from. Not from a fancy dress or an expensive dinner…

So I cried a little bit and apologized. I hadn’t meant to make him feel bad. What a humbling blessing to be able to ask for forgiveness from the one I love on the day we celebrate the promises that we made to always fight fair and seek out resolution to our conflicts and struggles.

And then we settled into the couch to read our “Love Story” book that we started on our wedding day.

Putting the photos of our parents and grandparents on their wedding days into our love story book.

And we looked though our photo album. And we both got a little emotional as we relived those memories.

Such a special moment I never want to forget.

And then, you know what we did?

We read our promises to each other.

Wyatt reading his promises to me. I’m crying here. He is, too.

The ones we read during our wedding after we recited our vows. The ones that made pretty much the entire church cry, including ourselves, with how sweet and personal and perfect for us that they were.

My turn with this very emotional task of reading our personalized promises to each other.

And you know what?

We both cried again. More than a few tears on our cheeks. In fact, there were several, many even, tears running down our cheeks as we relived how passionate we were as we wrote and recited those words to each other last year and remembered just how much love and devotion and history and hope those words carried for us then, and how much they still mean to us know.

And you know what else?

It was exactly what I would have wanted our “actual” anniversary to be. It was real. It was honest. It was tender and sweet and private. We’ll save the silly celebrations for later. Those special moments were all about taking time to quietly reflect on just how amazingly blessed we are to call each other best friends…lovers… teammates… family…husband and wife.

And that was all the joy I could have ever dreamed of wanting for such a very special day.

 

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One year ago

One year ago, right now, we were struggling to load up everything we’d DIY’d and gathered up for our reception decorations. I think I was arguing with my dad a little bit about having some sort of plan for everyone to follow.

We were packing up everything into the big horse trailer my dad has for the farm to get ready to take a big load out to the fairgrounds where our reception was being held.

Then we were off to enjoy donuts as everyone of our helpers rushed to get everything just so. It was a great day, and everything went so well as we worked to make the building look lovely.

We had things like this:

The guest book where people wrote us advice and best wishes and notes from the heart…

On this table:

So many little note cards, all designed by me, and printed by my mom’s wonderful co-worker, for people to choose to write their notes on.

And this:

The cake table full of cupcakes! And the little signs I made telling what kinds they were. We had 6 kinds and they were awesome. YUM. Also, the handmade confetti was fun. I’d be a professional wedding DIY-er if I could.

And a table that ended up being decorated like this:

The “menu table.” The menu was also printed on the placemats we’d made for every person to have at their seats, complete with a customized crossword puzzle, all about Wyatt and I.

With a photo backdrop like this:

So fun!

And so so so many of these, which I love:

And these, which we’d picked and assembled the day before:

So lovely and simple.

And this:

Our favors in the wagon. A mix “tape” of “his, hers, and ours” favorite songs.

And this:

Photo board of us while we were dating…for 7 years…

And of course this:

This was my pride and joy of DIY. I LOVED making this.

More memories to come tomorrow, guys. Thanks for celebrating with me as we remember our happy, beautiful day!

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The 10 Best Things About Being a Newlywed

I’ve had some time to think about marriage recently, and I’ve compiled a list that I thought was important enough to share with all of you. Ready? Let’s go.

(Note: This list is not at all intended to be taken totally seriously, unless of course, you are a newlywed, or can remember being one, and thus, you can remember the complicated sense of annoyed-joy that goes along with many of these “bests.”)

(Another note. If written sarcasm gives you trouble, and it does for a lot of us, then here’s a hint: most of this is written with the sarcastic undertones of a writer who has had an incredibly frustrating day, and yet is trying desperately to cling to the optimistic, happy bursts of energy that get me through each day.)

1. It’s awesome how poor newlyweds are! I love that the most extravagant splurge we make each week is deciding which low-to-moderately-priced restaurant we want to eat at for the one meal each week that we budget not eating at home for. This makes it incredibly easy to explore all the coolest and hippest places in this great big city that we call home.

2. Hand-me-down furniture matches so well! Luckily, my style is pretty eclectic so I actually like a lot of the pieces we’re slowly starting to collect. However, Hubs isn’t so lucky. He typically likes things more sleek and modern. Not something that’s easy to find at thrift shops, garage sales, and in our parents’ basements.

3. Sharing a bathroom for the first time with a member of the opposite sex isn’t at all awkward! We live in a one bedroom apartment with one bathroom. There’s not a lot of sound-proofing, or smell-proofing, that goes along with a situation like that. Oh, and there’s long hairs on nearly every surface in there, no matter how often I try to clean them up. I’m sure Hubs is wondering how there’s still any hair left on my head after I’ve shed all over everything for the past year.

4. Sleeping in the same bed with someone for the first time after 20+ years of not sharing the covers is such an easy adjustment to make! You guys that have been married for a bunch of years don’t fight over the sheets, talk in your sleep, kick each other in the shins, accidentally put an elbow in someone’s ear or eye in the middle of the night, or blow morning breath in each others’ faces often enough. You should try doing all those things again. It will really help rekindle the romance in your lives, I’m sure of it. It also helps you be super sweet to each other when a fight breaks out after a bad night’s sleep.

5. People expect us to start having kids any day now, which is awesome. I love dreaming about the future, but I also like sleeping through the night and not spending hundreds of dollars on diapers every month. See numbers 1 and 4 if you need clarification on those two things again.

6. We get to experience a whole bunch of new things all the time that make us grumpy. When you’ve only lived together a short time, it’s easy to always find new ways to annoy each other. We’re learning how to avoid these things, but there are bound to be plenty of more new fights before we’ve “had them all.”

7. It’s acceptable to be lovely-dovey in public. Nothing says “I love you,” like a bold pat on the tushie or a big kiss while waiting in line at the grocery store.

8. Almost all of our photos are professionally taken, so they look great. We don’t have any kids so almost all of our photo frames are full of pictures of us. Most of those were taken on our wedding day. They are beautiful, but I wonder how long it’s acceptable to only display photos of our wedding in our home.

9. Almost all recipes require a special trip to the store because we don’t have a built-up pantry. I love finding awesome recipes I want to make that night and then realizing we don’t have like half of the ingredients!

10. None of these other things really matter that much because marriage is a journey that I’m happy to be on with my best friend. Yes, we fight, and yes we have some unfortunate moments. But, overall, I’d say that we’ve learned more than we ever planned to, and love each other more now than we did before. We’re patient, most of the time, and happy, almost all of the time, too, so there’s really nothing to complain about.

And about the other nine items on my list? We’ll get through them. But if you have advice, we’d love to hear it!

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Thursday thoughts…

Today’s the first day of March.

Tomorrow is Friday, and for several reasons, I’ve never looked forward to a Friday more.

March means that Spring is coming up soon!

March also means that soccer season is starting soon!

I can’t believe Hubs and I have been married for almost 8 months! I know everyone said it won’t go by quickly, but I had no idea how fast it would seem!

When I type, my right pinky finger often locks up. Hmm…

I love the smell and feel of freshly washed, hot-out-of-the-dryer sheets. Oh my!

I did nothing to celebrate leap year. I’m kind of bummed out about that.

Papa Murphy’s gourmet vegetarian pizza with their white sauce and added olives is amazing. Just saying.

I wish I’d eaten less pizza because I’m in the mood for cheesecake. However, I don’t have any cheesecake so I guess it’s okay I ate so much pizza.

Sometimes crafts just don’t work out the way I want them to. I wish I know ahead of time because I dislike wasting my time.

Whoever invented decaf beverages should go on my list of blessings and happy things. I know I gave up caffeine but I’m happy I can still have tea every now and then. I can also have decaf coffee but it’s not the same, so I don’t.

I’m excited for tomorrow.

If you have comments on any of those things, I’d love to hear it!

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Wedding season begins again

Today we received the invitation to my best friend’s wedding. (No matter what, I always think of that movie when I say that.)

It’s so exciting!

It’s also crazy that we’re old enough to get married. It seems like not that long ago we were riding the bus to math tournaments and talking during band class.

(It’s okay that I admitted we were a bit nerdy in high school. I’m not ashamed. She isn’t either, I’m sure.)

I can’t help but be a little jealous that she’s about to have the happiest day of her life and I already had the happiest day of my life.

Ok, just kidding.

I know I’ll have lots of other happiest days of my life. Finding out about pregnancies, births (minus the pain part there), buying a house, getting a real job, anniversaries, when our kids have big moments, grow up, and have the happiest days of their lives…

But I do sometimes miss all the beautiful, wonderful, fun things that go along with having a wedding. Of course, I’m her matron of honor, so I get to help, but I live two hours away, so I don’t get to help as much as I’d like…

And I can always look back on how amazingly special and awesome our wedding day was.

I know I shouldn’t be jealous of her special day. And really, I’m more happy than jealous. If I had to say, I’d say I’m 96.7 percent happy and 4.2 percent jealous. That’s not terrible, but I wish I wasn’t at all jealous. But I’m honest with you guys so I know you can handle it. (You might even have advice!)

Seriously though, I’m very, very, very happy for her! And proud of her. She and her fiance did the distance thing like Hubs and I did, though for them, it was a longer distance for a shorter amount of time. (It was long enough, though!)

We know what it’s like to learn to say goodbye and goodnight over the phone, and to wish more than anything you could have a real hug, and to count down the days, hours, and minutes until the next phone call, next visit, next moment alone for a sweet, special kiss…

Now, I can’t wait to watch her get married to her best friend. And it’s even more special to me because I know what it feels like to marry my best friend. And because I’m proud and honored to be a part of her special day! I know their marriage will be a happy one, and I’m so excited to see where the future takes us both.

So, in honor of her wedding, and my own wedding, and how life moves us on to bigger and better and happier and harder things, here’s some great memories to share with you.

This was about 6 years ago. We look pretty much the same though. Kinda.

We have lots of silly fun when we're together. Again, this was a long time ago...I still wear that hat though...

 

Aren't they cute and happy...four years ago!

We love dressing up. I think we both still have these dresses. We should wear them to the wedding! No? Ok...I won't wear white...and she won't wear black.

These two love birds are always into something.

Hard to believe we're all grown up now...

To all you other best friends of mine out there, I’ll be happy to post about you before your special day. So get on it, girls!

Just kidding.

But seriously, when your time comes, we’ll party it up for you, too! Woohoo!

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Friday’s Food for Thought!

Today, as the second installment of Friday’s Food for Thought, I wanted to share a song that’s especially special to me.

Why?

Well, because I heard this song on KLove for the first time while driving to school from my internship on a cold, rainy, Winter day last February, and immediately went home and googled it.

It was perfect and beautiful. So we played this during our wedding when we were writing in our love story book together.

No, the ages of the couple in the song aren’t the same age as Wyatt and me, but it’s still the idea that Hubs and I are young, and were VERY young when we started dating. No one thought we would make it, and no, we don’t have a lot of money, but we’re happy, and we’re committed. The first verse is my favorite.

Plus, I love how it ties in the idea of God’s love being a great example of how we’re to lay down our lives for each other. Marriage is special because even though putting our spouse above ourselves is a sacrifice, it doesn’t feel like we’re missing anything. In fact, we’re gaining everything. The second verse is my favorite.

And then the part at the end when it talks about helping each other remember we ever lose our way or forget who we are. And how we don’t have to fear, because even in the scary, dark times, we’re never alone. We have each other. And we have our Father. The end is my favorite.

🙂

Are you sensing a theme here?

Anyway, I’d love to know what you think!

 

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Friday’s (First) Food for Thought

Hi readers!

Are you excited?

Because I am.

It’s time for a new tradition here at the Newlywed Wife.

So…. I’m pleased to introduce you to the first edition of Friday’s Food for Thought.

Since we live in a world where the idea of marriage is often broken, I’m interested in what others have to say about this lifestyle we’ve entered into. And while I’m not sure that I’m convinced you can make your marriage more likely to be successful through “book learning,” I’m never one to turn down the opportunity to learn or think about something new…especially if it in some way connects to my life, or in this case, my married life.

So, every week I’ll (try to) post something from someone else that talks about marriage, love, or something else applicable or awesome.

For today’s inaugural Friday’s Food for Thought post, I wanted to share this spoken word piece from Jeff Bethke. He’s a spoken word artist, and you may have seen his other video floating around the internet. I think this one is especially powerful, though, so I wanted to share it with you all.

I think my favorite moment is around 2:27. (But you know I love the idea of marriage as a promise because of this page.)

I’d love to know what you think!

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Lesson #11: 6 months in…

Today, Hubs and I have been married for 6 months. I can’t believe how amazing it is to be married to my best friend. He’s the cheese to my macaroni and the butter to my bread. Can you tell I love my husband? And that I love carbs?

Yup, we're married. And we're super happy about it!

Before we were married, I felt a huge burden to learn to be a wife. Of course, there was nothing I could have done to prepare myself for marriage. True, I had great examples in our friends and family to learn from, but overall, Hubs and I are committed to just figuring our how to make our little family work.

Here’s a list of some things I’ve learned so far.

(P.S. Check out the links throughout to read the stories that inspired these lessons.)

1. Being a wife is much more difficult than being a girlfriend. We had a lot of fun when we were dating, but dating isn’t cheap. Now that we’re married, it’s not all fun and games anymore. Our nights are no longer just filled with dinner dates and going to movies or plays. We have nights that are devoted almost entirely to cleaning and paying bills, and we hardly ever go out to a “nice” dinner anymore.  We save as much money as we can and we sometimes worry about the future or costly unexpected repair bills. Mostly, though, we just try to enjoy every day in this blessing of a life.

Yes, unexpected costs are a pain, but no, it didn't ruin our Christmas.

2. It’s not all smiles all the time. Since Hubs and I are together so much more than we were while we were dating, I have to really keep my attitude in check. Before I was usually happy when we were together because I didn’t want to waste any of the short time we had together by being unhappy. Now that we have more time, I sometimes struggle with thinking that I “have time” to pout. But, I constantly trying to combat that by reminding myself that as a wife, it’s my duty to be a blessing to my husband, no matter how grumpy or salty I am. That means I need to keep fighting against the grumps and not give in to the little, everyday problems that can chip away at our joy. Because let’s face it, when I’m not happy, Hubs isn’t either.

3. Doing laundry is my favorite household chore. However, I sometimes dislike the amount of folding that has to be done to keep clothes from getting wrinkled. Dusting, cleaning the bathtub, sink, and outside of the toilet are my least favorite. Vacuuming used to be at the bottom of the list, until I became the proud owner of an Oreck. Even, I smile, with my vacuum-hating history, when using this master cleaner.

4. Size isn’t everything. I love our little apartment. We don’t have a lot of room, but it’s perfect for us as we’re starting out. My only complaint? The lack of storage and prep space in our tiny kitchen. Luckily, I have a husband with the motto, “will wash for food,” and my dishes hardly ever stay dirty in the sink for very long. Which is great, because I LOVE learning to cook. Plus, I still love this room, no matter how small I sometimes feel that it is.

5. Growing up means going to bed earlier. Almost all the time. And you know what? I’m pretty okay with that. Especially since learning to sleep together has been a challenge. (It still is sometimes...)

This is our bed. We like being there. It's a nice place.

6. Working is both a blessing (that I’m very thankful for), challenge, and a curse (I dislike working weekends when Hubs is home without me, and having my days off during the week, when I’m home without him). Yes, I whined all Fall about not having a job and how bummed out I was that no one would hire me, even Old Navy. Now that I’m working 30 or so hours a week at my part time job, I so appreciate the time I had at home to myself. I was able to get so much done during the day when I was home all the time. At the same time, I feel proud to contribute to our savings account as we watch our down payment fund increase every month. And while I don’t dislike my job, it’s certainly not what I picture myself doing for a long period of time.

Remember how happy I was when I "got hired?" Well, the excitement is slowly fading...though I'm still very thankful.

7. We don’t need to pretend as though we feel we’re on a never-ending date. We’re married now, and that’s totally and completely different! We share a bathroom, for goodness sake! And we can hang out on lazy morning without getting dressed. And we can argue fairly and never worry that one of us will “give up and give in.” We’re in it for the rest of our lives, and there will be bad fights, hard nights, and unfortunate sights…and smells. But none of that matters because we’re not dating anymore. We’re married, and we’re happy to be moving forward.

8. Fighting fair is something we’re committed to doing for the rest of our lives, but it isn’t always easy. Wyatt has always been a bit more in control of his emotions, but that doesn’t always mean he’s better at conflict, because avoiding the topic and trying to move on only works for one of us (hint: it’s not me) and even then, it’s important to not bottle everything up forever. Still, I’ve learned more about myself and my argument habits than I ever thought I needed to know.

9. The hardest part about being a newlywed isn’t figuring out how to live together, so I disagree with those that say you NEED to live together before getting married to make sure it will work. The hardest part about being a newlywed is just figuring out how to do life all on our own. We’ve been best friends for more than 6 years, but until now, we’ve never been on our own together. We’re making decisions and doing our best to figure things out. We mess up and drop the ball (late or forgotten payments, anyone?) but we do our best to just laugh at ourselves and do better next time. And when we mess up with how we treat each other? It’s more than worth it to take the time to make up and make out later. (Yes, making out is key to any marriage, I say.)

We kissed a lot 6 months ago. We still kiss a lot now. Some things haven't changed a bit. We're still crazy for each other.

10. Being a wife is something I’m certain I was made to do. I may not know “what I want to be when I grow up,” or when I’ll get “a real job,” but I know I’m being the best wife I can be to the best husband I can imagine. Sure, someday our family will grow and it won’t be just the two of us anymore, but for now, I love our little family, and am super blessed every day with new surprises that this newlywed life brings our way.

Happy in our newlywed life!

Oh, and a bonus lesson?

I’m still terrified of spiders, but I’m learning to make my peace with the fact that they exist and that we may come in contact more than I’d prefer...

What do you think? What lessons have you learned in your marriage, whether it’s six months in or thirty years…or more!

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Little and Big…

As we were getting ready for bed last night, (I feel a lot of our post-worthy moments are from that time of night) I was feeling a little bummed out. I think because I was thinking about another week beginning with no job, not even close. And we were talking about this coming weekend.

I’m so excited for a good friend’s wedding on Saturday that I get to be a part of, but for some reason, I was just a little down. As I sorted out my feelings to determine the cause of my gloom, I admitted to Wyatt that I think I was just missing the fact that my wedding day was over. Forever.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t at all want to go backwards. I’m so happy to be married, and in order to be married, the wedding day has to be over. I loved our wedding, and I couldn’t have asked for it to be a better day. I have no regrets and no hard feelings. Still, I think it’s natural to reminisce about the happiest day of our lives. Which is fine, as long as you don’t obsess or start to get stuck in this gloomy sort of mood.

And that thought, that our wedding day was the happiest day of my life, is what made me start to think about why I was feeling a little bummed out.  The thought that not every day of our lives will be a “big day.” Our next big day won’t be until the birth of a child, or when we find out we’re expecting, or buying a new house.

And while I was in the middle of figuring out how to feel about that, Wyatt simply and quietly interrupted my thoughts and said, “but you can’t just look forward to all the big days, you have to live all the little days happening right now.”

Ok, he gets the award for both the sweetest and most practical pep talk.

And he’s right. I don’t want to be bummed out thinking about how great one day in our past was, or how great one day in our future will be.

To be honest, I think that’s something I’ve always struggled with. I’m super “goal-oriented” and looking forward to exciting things to come is what got me through three jam-packed, fast-forwarded years of college. But now that I’m here, living the part of my life that I’ve always looked forward to, I don’t want to miss a single moment.

So this weekend we’ll celebrate a friend’s “big day,” and celebrate the fact that we’re in this stage of “little days” where we can just relax and enjoy our little family in our little apartment.

Because bigger things are coming, and someday, we’ll have our hands full of “big stuff.” Or if Wyatt gets his way, two little-boy-bundles of “little stuff.”

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A cat person at heart…

It all started a few months ago when I teared up when I saw this commercial on TV. (I googled it and found this extended version.) Seriously, I dare you to watch it and not feel all warm and fuzzy, whether you’re a cat person or not!

But then I saw this one yesterday, and immediately rewatched the longer version online. I know I’m already married, so “my day” is done, but come on, how sweet is this? I still get mushy every time I watch it!

And there’s more! See all the ones in between here:

http://www.youtube.com/user/PurinaFancyFeast?v=w5YYiPkJ8eE&feature=pyv&ad=8202723539&kw=fancy%20feast%20wedding#g/c/4D37F834684534A3

Sorry for the mush. Maybe I miss my wedding. Maybe I miss my cat. Maybe I wish Wyatt would ever break out of his “I hate all cats” shell and let me have a kitten.

But mostly, I think I’m just a girly girl at heart who loves a good love story. Who cares that it was written for the sole purpose of selling expensive cat food?

Not this girl.

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