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Friday’s Food For Thought: Til Death Due Us Part

Spoiler Alert: You may need a tissue for this story, as it’s a little sad, and a lot heart-warming.

Here’s the news story, here.

I’d love to know what you think about this story, especially the heart beat part. Wow!

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Friday’s Food For Thought: Love Letter Edition #2

On March 31, 1952, Dick Hauck wrote a special letter to his sweetheart, Arlene. He was serving in the Army and stationed away from her while she waited at home. As they courted, they wrote letters everyday, and have a box of them saved to this day.

The most important letter wasn’t included in that collection, however, as it was lost nearly 60 years ago.

Photo from Kare11 news

It was the letter in which 21-year-old Dick proposed to his now wife. The pair have now been happily married all these years. The lost letter was found by two contractors who were remodeling an old home, Arlene’s childhood home, as they removed the old flooring. They delivered it back to the couple almost 60 years to the day of when it was written.

Dick became noticeably emotional as he relived his feelings from that day and read through the letter again, all these years later.

To be honest, I became noticeably emotional as he relived his feelings from that day and read through the letter again, all these years later. And I’ll admit that my eyes filled with tears as his voice cracked while reading, “I got your ring today, I sure hope you will like it. I wish I could have gotten it long ago darling.”

Dick flew home a few weeks after sending the letter and the two were married in June. They say the secret to their lasting marriage is friendship.

Photo from Kare11 news

You can read the story of the love letter here.  I’d love to know what you think of this story!

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Friday’s Food for Thought: What the kids think…

It’s Friday and it’s summer, so I wanted to share some silly, happy thoughts with you guys today. You know the drill. Read it, and talk back to me!

On how to make love last…

“One of you should know how to write a check. Because, even if you have tons of love, there is still going to be a lot of bills.” -Ava, age 8  (SO TRUE, AVA, SO TRUE.)

“Don’t forget your wife’s name … That will mess up the love.” -Erin, age 8

“Be a good kisser. It might make your wife forget that you never take out the trash.” -Dave, age 8

On how to find the right person to marry…

“You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.” Allan, age 10

“The person is thinking: Yeah, I really do love him. But I hope he showers at least once a day.” -Michelle, age 9 (WELL, OF COURSE WE HOPE THAT!)

On what to do after falling in love…

“Single is better… for the simple reason that I wouldn’t want to change diapers… Of course, if I did get married, I’d figure something out. I’d just phone my mother and have her come over for some coffee and diaper-changing.” Kirsten, age 10 (HOW ‘BOUT IT MOM? THINK THAT WOULD WORK?)

“You should never kiss a girl unless you have enough bucks to buy her a big ring and her own VCR, ’cause she’ll want to have videos of the wedding.” -Allan, 10

On why people fall in love…

“No one is sure why it happens, but I heard it has something to do with how you smell … That’s why perfume and deodorant are so popular.” -Mae, age 9

“I think you’re supposed to get shot with an arrow or something, but the rest of it isn’t supposed to be so painful.” -Manuel, age 8 (IF ONLY THAT WERE TRUE, RIGHT?)

“No person really decides before they grow up who they’re going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you got to find out later who you’re stuck with.” Kirsten, age 10 (AW, SO SWEET…I THINK.)

And the last one:

 

Note: I found most of these with a quick google search and some various pages that popped up there, so I have no idea who these children are and if they really said this stuff. Still, it’s cute, right?

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Friday’s Food For Thought: 65 Years

Something short and sweet today for you guys to see, read, enjoy, and talk back to me about:

I can only hope for the blessing of 65 years of fixing our brokenness together…

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Friday’s Food for Thought: Matchy-matchy

It’s a common thought that couples that stay together for long periods of time eventually begin to look like each other.

Mel and Joey Schwanke took that belief to an entirely different level.

They match. Every day!

The couple has been married for 64 years (Amazing!) and say that they own 146 custom-made outfits that match, which they choose from every morning when they get dressed.

Wow.

And holy moly, how cute are they?

Seriously.

Joey said: “I’ve always fully respected him and he’s fully respected me. We’ve had to work together on things like that. And in the morning we say, ‘Well, what do you feel like wearing?’”

Respect. That’s a good thing to note for a reason they’re still so happily married.

The tradition began years ago as Mel would bring home fabric from his travels, just enough to make a dress and a belt. Eventually, he told Joey that he didn’t think the belt flattered her, saying it “kind of cuts you in the middle.” So, Joey’s dressmaker started to make a tie instead of a belt each time, and the couple began to match.

Honesty. Gentle honestly. I’d say that’s a key to the marriage as well.

And the fact that they always wake up every morning and make themselves look as nice as they can. (Not that I think couples can’t ever chill out in their skivvies or wear shorts and a t-shirt, but it is nice to look nice for each other, at least sometimes, right?)

Here’s the rest of the story.

Think Hubs would wear something like this?

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Friday’s Food for Thought: Rules for Marriage

I found this online this morning and it made me think about what sort of rules we have in our marriage. Things like asking for forgiveness after we mess up, remembering to communicate well, and never ever ever threatening to leave.

We’re still very new to this marriage stuff, even though it’s been almost 11 months now, but we’re learning what works for us.

Every marriage is different, of course, so I’m sure your rules are different. Care to share?

What’s some rules you live by in your marriage? What have you learned to always do…or never do?

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Friday’s Food for Thought: Love in a Tutu

Husbands and wives share a special bond and usually that special bond includes inside jokes and secret little ways to cheer each other up and make each other smile. If the face of wife Linda Carey’s battle with breast cancer, Bob Carey is bringing those special little moments from their private lives to the rest of the world in a very vulnerable, yet comical way.

It’s clear the dedication and love he has for his wife. It’s clear the good they’re trying to accomplish in the lives of others battling this disease. It’s clear that they’re story is special. In fact, it’s so special, it’s now a full on movement to try to raise money in the fight to find a cure.

all images from the Tutu Project website

Bob writes on his website, “During these past nine years, I’ve been in awe of her power, her beauty, and her spirit. Oddly enough, her cancer has taught us that life is good, dealing with it can be hard, and sometimes the very best thing—no, the only thing—we can do to face another day is to laugh at ourselves, and share a laugh with others.”

all images from the Tutu Project facebook page

Here’s the Today show interview. Check it out. Try not to feel a little bit better after watching this. I dare you.

The Tutu Project

all images from the Tutu Project's facebook page

 It begs the question of what we would be willing to do for our spouse if they were ever in need of just something small to make them smile…or in need of something bigger. Something to save their life.

Rock on, Tutu Man. Thanks for showing us all a little bit of the love you have for your dear wife.

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Friday’s Food for Thought…”Love” letter edition

A few days before his 26-year-old son, Michael, got married, future-President Ronald Reagan sent him a letter of advice on love and marriage. This was in 1971.

It’s a pretty great letter, full of wisdom, so I wanted to share it with you guys. I’d love to know what you think, so you know the drill – got something to say? Leave a comment! I’ll talk back, I promise!

Enjoy:

Photo from: http://www.commercialappeal.com

Michael Reagan
Manhattan Beach, California
June 1971

Dear Mike:

Enclosed is the item I mentioned (with which goes a torn up IOU). I could stop here but I won’t.

You’ve heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the “unhappy marrieds” and cynics. Now, in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it.

Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly confident that what a wife doesn’t know won’t hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever finding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in the flimsy excuse of where he was till three A.M., a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of this relationship disappears. There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves than there can ever be wives deserving of blame. There is an old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back to an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn’t take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music. If you truly love a girl, you shouldn’t ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other woman to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the woman you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors. 

Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.

Love,
Dad

P.S. You’ll never get in trouble if you say “I love you” at least once a day.

 

 

I found this letter at http://www.lettersofnote.com.

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Friday’s Food for Thought: Facebook style

Today, Facebook has certainly become a household name. Almost everyone I know has a page, and I’d estimate that about 90 percent of those actually use it to communicate and keep up with their friends, both real and Facebook-style.

I’ve been thinking a lot about what role the social network plays in relationships.

For us, we don’t interact on Facebook very often because Hubs rarely checks his. (We do tweet at each other fairly often, though!)

But for this couple, Facebook means a lot! They met and married all because of an online search. It’s like a dating site…for free!

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2009/jul/21/same-name-couple-facebook-marry

I mean, my sister and her husband has their first interaction on Facebook because I suggested she might like him and she looked him up and added him as a friend. You never know!

And what about couples who share an account? My parents do that, though most postings and/or interactions come from my mom. Dad’s more of a silent “lurker,” but when he does leave a comment, he usually signs it, “dad,” so we know who we’re talking to.

This wedding photographer dislikes the trend and talks about it here:

http://tonywhitmore.co.uk/blog/2008/08/29/the-facebook-couple-thing/

It works for them, and they definitely don’t need separate accounts, but a lot of my younger married friends still have both, and sometimes leave cute messages on each others’ pages.

But what about the darker side? Stories of cheating significant others caught by incriminating wall posts and messages fill magazines. It’s certainly a real temptation based on how many stories are out there. I’m not going to post one, I think we all know how those stories go, so there’s no reason to dig up the dirty details. I think we all agree that it’s technology that needs to be treated with respect, care, and caution. There’s no way you should do things online you wouldn’t do in person. And if you’d do those sorts of things in person? Well, the relationship is already in need of some seriously healing.

I guess my main question is what role Facebook will play in our marriage as we grow older. Surely, I’ll still use to connect with the friends and family we moved away from. Hubs? Well, I’d guess that his page will eventually be deleted…

What about you? Are you and your spouse on Facebook? Why? Will you stay that way? Any pros and cons?

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Friday’s Food for Thought: Real meaning of MPH…

Ok guys, it’s Friday’s Food for Thought time!

Are you excited?

Yes?

Good!.

(If the answer was no, I ignored you…)

Anyway, I saw this video on Facebook, posted by a couple-based blog I liked a few months back to try to win some sort of giveaway.

The background of the story is that the couple is traveling a long way in a car with no radio after staying up all night studying for finals. Clearly, the girl’s poor brain is fried.

They are a young married couple, both college students, and I think their story is really cute.

Here’s the video.

Why do I like this video so much?

Because I relate to it.

We all relate to it.

We all have moments when we just DO NOT and CAN NOT understand a concept our spouse is trying to explain to us. (It doesn’t have to be a spouse, it could be a friend or family, but often times, the emotional stakes are higher when it’s a spouse.)

It happens all the time with Wyatt and I. He’s very analytical. That’s what he does for a living. He’s a business analyst. Seriously. He’s good at math and numbers and formulas.

I’m good at writing and words and reading comprehension.

It’s not that we can’t understand other concepts, it just takes more effort.

(We also understand the kind of conversation that happens when you drive more than an hour in a car with no radio…since Hubs had his radio stolen  months ago.)

The problem with this video is that it went viral. The husband never meant for it to go viral. He posted it online to show their friends and family.

It just so happened that a few months after he posted it, it went crazy, as things on the internet can do.

I don’t think he mean any disrespect for her. I think they’re a young couple that have a friendship-based relationship. We tease our friends, they tease us. It’s part of the things that make up a friendship, right?

And they seem to still be happily married… and they’ve made some money off of the deal, right?

Check out the news story here:

http://cdnapi.kaltura.com/index.php/kwidget/wid/1_8uaucsj2/uiconf_id/5590821

or here.

And it’s always positive when a couple is able to get past an argument by realizing marriage is so much more than emotions.

“I realized our marriage is deeper than that…” she says.

So true.

So, let’s hear it. Do you think he’s a bad guy for posting this? Do we believe they are just having fun and teasing? What about in your relationship, has something like this ever happened to you?

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