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“V”ictories..even small ones

Remember my post yesterday about our big fight before bed on Monday?

Well, last night, we celebrated our victory in overcoming that fight, continuing to learn and love and forgive each other when we fail at communicating with care, and for simply the sake of celebrating.

So, we made cupcakes.

And we enjoyed them.

Yum. Yum. Yum.

Yum. I'll celebrate love with my love, any day!

We know that we’re going to have bad days when we just get on each other’s nerves. We also have days when we are overcome by the awesome amount of love we have for each other.

You want to know something crazy? Some days, both of those things happen.

That’s something surprisingly wonderful I’ve learned in our nearly ten months of marriage.

And I’d say that’s worth celebrating.

Life’s about the little things, after all, right?

What about you? What do you celebrate and why? Better yet, how do you celebrate?

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“U”nderstanding Each Other

Hubs and I are different.

A lot different.

I am a 50% rational and 50% emotional. Usually the rational part wins over, but when it’s time to be emotional, boy, do I get emotional!

Hubs is 80% rational and 20% emotional.*

This can make it hard to communicate.

Case in point?

Last night, about 11:15pm, laying in bed.

I was feeling overwhelmed about working and job hunting and house cleaning and moving and finding a house and…

Hubs was tired.

He knew it was fine for bed.

I knew it was time for bed, too, but the emotional part of my being won out.

I’ll admit there was some crying when Hubs wasn’t really supportive of my need to be cheered up and calmed down.

He was rational in that he said I already knew everything he would say to cheer me up. I knew that I knew all those things, too, but I was already too emotional to care about that stuff now.

(In my defense, I understand that I was still on antibiotics that make me feel super nauseous and that my body is trying to get better, so I know I wasn’t really myself.)

(In Hubs’ defense, he eventually understood that he was going to have to give in and just work me through my emotional-ness, no matter how much he tried to convince me to be rational.

So we had a bit of a fight and stayed up later than we should have.

And we managed to make up and wake up happy together.

Because we understand each other, even when we’re unhappy.

*Hubs approved all the percentages estimated in this post.

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“T”aking Turns

I know it’s a concept that most of us learn when we’re young in regards to sharing toys and games and time on Mom’s lap, which is no fun for anyone.

But the idea of taking turns with household chores, and special attention to one another is one that’s been on my mind all weekend.

To make a long story, short, this weekend was busy.

busy, Busy, BUSY.

Friday night was supposed to be “date night in” with meatloaf and potatoes.

Instead, I found out at about 3:00 that we were headed to a fancy benefit dinner for a charity awards banquet. Wyatt got two free tickets courtesy of his job.

It was a super fancy dinner. I felt like a real grown up that night. A fancy grown up in the big, fancy, grown-up city. Did I mention it was fancy?

We had cocktails at the open bar, some pretty delicious dinner and a super delicious dessert, and sat back to watch the awards and speeches.

Getting all dressed up was certainly no how we planned to spend the night, but it was fun!

We spent the night with some friends from Hubs’ work and had a great time.

Saturday morning at 5:00am, I woke up feeling pretty sick (and no, it wasn’t from the open bar the night before…)

So at 9:00, we headed to the doctor and got a prescription. Suddenly the weekend went from super fun and busy to a little harder to manage.

So we changed gears a little bit and I spent more time on the couch trying to feel better while Hubs got things ready for the rest of the day.

There wasn’t time to really rest up, thought, because we had an indoor soccer game around noon, and tickets to the Royals game that night.

Yup, that's me, in a Royals shirt. Living in KC is certainly proving to be an interesting experience!

They lost, which is a bit of a bummer, but we had a good time and enjoyed the sunshine and ballpark hotdogs. We ended up leaving early because I was tired and ready for bed.

Sunday I woke up feeling much better than the previous 24 hours, but still not great. We got to sleep  a little later, but had to get on the road to Springfield to catch the minor league cardinals game we were planning to enjoy with my sister, brother-in-law, grandpa and cousins.

The trip was great, the game was fun, and the day was overall, a fun Sunday.

(I LOVE having my weekends off. I’m on the job hunt again after quitting Job#2, but I’m happy to be free to enjoy days off together.)

Sorry no pictures of the game, but we did get to see the Cardinals’ World Series trophy that was on display at the stadium for the weekend.

Sorry about the random people in the photo, I didn't want to wait in line to see it up close.

We made it home at a good time since it was an afternoon game, but there wasn’t time for a grocery trip run (it was supposed to be Friday night after the meatloaf…but that didn’t happen, clearly.) so we had pizza.

And we did some house-hunting. And just chilled out on the coach until bed.

This morning I woke up feeling better again, but still not 100 percent well, and I’m thankful Job#3 is only three days a week and that I finished most work for Job#1 on Friday.

That means I have all day today to rest, clean up our messy home after our weekend craziness, and keep recovering.

Throughout the weekend,  I was reminded of just how much taking turns has a place in marriage. It was Hubs’ turn to do more laundry, do more kitchen-clean up, and do more taking care of me.

He’s quick to hold my hand, help make me to feel better, no matter how much I dislike the medicine or whatever I need to do…and take out the trash.

And the best part about marriage is that I don’t have to feel guilty for soaking up his attention and care, because the next time he’s sick, it will be my turn to take care of him.

Sharing isn’t so bad after all.

 

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“S”ecrets

Hubs and I don’t have secrets from each other.

We’re both very open anyway, and find it easy to talk to pretty much anyone, but with each other,  we believe in sharing our lives, completely. It’s helped build trust in our relationship and makes us feel closer, connected, and safe, no matter what we have to talk about.

Of course, there are some exceptions…things like what I’m planning for his birthday or that I’m going to surprise him with his favorite dinner when he gets home from work, but overall, and with all the big stuff, we’re honest with each other.

If a friend says, “I’ll tell you this, but you can’t tell anyone, even Wyatt,” I’m quick to stop them and explain that I’m not comfortable with that.

Does that mean Hubs cares about the juicy gossip I hear from a friend about someone he doesn’t even know? Of course not. But if he doesn’t need to know, there’s a good chance I don’t need to know either.

And does Hubs tell me everything he does at work all day long? No, but he could if we had the time or desire to go over details like that all the time.

The fact that we don’t have secrets doesn’t mean we know everything there is to know about each other. We certainly still surprise each other every now and then.

It does mean that we don’t purposely hide anything that could be hurtful to ourselves, our marriage, or each other.

I think this has made a big difference in our relationship.

But it isn’t always easy.

Since Hubs is my very best friend and my favorite person to talk to, he’s the first one I want to tell any exciting news.

So when I found out he was getting a season ticket to all the Sporting KC games, I had a hard time keeping my mouth shut. There were several times when I had to stop myself from saying, “I have exciting news,” as I realized I couldn’t tell him that exciting news. And then he was pretty unhappy when I had to say, “Oops, never mind, honey.”

I guess thereis a downside of sharing everything…

But it’s a downside that we’re willing to live with. Total trust is totally worth it.

Your turn? Do you have any secrets? Can you keep a secret? Or is it hard to hide stuff, even things like birthday gifts, from you significant other?

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“E”aster weekend

Okay, here’s the deal, this weekend is going to be busy for us.

We have a work, travel, a bachelorette party (that’s me), a soccer game (that’s Hubs), family, fun, food, and oh yea, Easter.

With all this busyness, it’s hard to have a relaxing time to reflect and reconnect with what we should be focusing on this weekend.

So, we’re planning on racing all the way up until late Saturday night and then settle into the beginning our weekend.

The beginning of our time with family.

And the beginning of it all:

“Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die.” -John 11:25-26

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“B”aby talk

Yesterday was April Fool’s day. A few young couples I know tried to trick us into thinking they were expecting.

I also know several couples who got married around the time we did that who actually are pregnant.

It makes me excited to think about when we’ll have kiddos, but in the mean time, we’re not in a hurry to get started on that.

We’d like to enjoy just being together for awhile before we bring a baby on the scene.

Don’t get me wrong, I might be a little anxious when I start to see all these new little ones in a few months.

So you can remind me of this post then, ok?

On a similar note, Hubs keeps asking if we can have a dog.

I’d like a dog (ONCE WE HAVE A HOUSE!) but I’m still not sure I want that added responsibility… I like the idea of not having anyone or anything depending on us…but us.

I’m sure we’ll get a dog someday, I’m just not thinking it’s time yet.

In the meantime, we’ll enjoy our newlywed-life, just the two of us.


What about you? How long will you/did you wait for a dog? For a baby? Any ideas of things we should do before we take on those things?

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“A”dventures in the big city

Hubs and I have only lived in the city for a year or so. (For him, I’ve been there even less.)

And it’s a big city. That means we don’t know where everything is.

And we sometimes get lost.

And by “get lost” I mean miss the exit because I haven’t been able to read the GPS instructions (or I stop paying attention) and miss the road we’re supposed to turn on so Hubs has to make a U-turn. Which he doesn’t mind to do.

I don’t like doing it, though.

However, I don’t mind being lost and missing roads. It makes me feel like we’re exploring.  I just mind making U-turns really quickly when there’s a semi coming at us.

The past weeks of driving around looking around in neighborhoods for houses that are for sale.

Let’s just say we’ve made a lot of U-turns lately.

What about you? Ever get lost? Does it bother you? If it does, how do you get over it?

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A to Z challenge…Day One

Ok guys, you may have seen this around on others’ blogs you follow. You may have seen this because you’re planning to do it on your blog…

But I’m also joining in on the party. Not because of peer pressure.

Of course not!

You really think I would give in to things like that?

That’s right. I was a DARE graduate. I was even a DARE essay winner. So I know all about peer pressure and how to “Just say no!” Plus, my mom is reading so I have to sound like I’m big and tough and never give in to peer pressure.

In reality, I do give in to peer pressure. Why else would I play soccer every Thursday night with a bunch of big boys I don’t know who are way better than me?

(Other than that it’s super fun to play with the only other girl that ever comes?)

Anyway, this has nothing at all to do with what I want to tell you about, which is this A to Z blogging challenge thingy.

Basically, for the month of April, I’ll be blogging every day (minus a few break days built in) using a letter of the alphabet as a guide for the topic.

Here’s the host website. 

I’m doing this for several reasons, none of which include peer pressure.

1. I like the alphabet. Geeky reason? Yes, but I like letter-themed activities. Always have, always will. And I’m not ashamed.

2. I like lists. See posts like this and this if you need proof of that.

3. I think I’ll enjoy the challenge of thinking of a letter-themed topic for my list everyday. Why wouldn’t that be super-duper fun and exciting, being that I love letters and lists…

We’re supposed to pick a theme, so I’m picking “Getting to know each other” as my theme as a continuation of this week’s “I’m Thankful for YOU!” post.”

So, each day, I’ll tell you something about Wyatt and I, and you tell me something about yourself!

I’m hoping it will be something you don’t already know about us, but for those you that are related to us, that may be harder to accomplish. I’m sure there will also be some lessons about marriage and communication and learning to live together and all that other typical newlywed blog stuff as well.

I’ll try to pick easy topics. You’ll see tomorrow how it will all work out.

You in?

Because you should.

Come on! Just do this with me!

It will be so fun!

All the cool kids are doing it!

See what I did there?

The peer pressure’s getting to you isn’t it?

 

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