Right now, there’s a lot of unknowns in our life.
Where will we live?
Where will I work?
When will I find a job?
When will we move?
When will we have kids?
When will we get a house?
Will we have the time and money to travel this year?
How much should we spend on a house?
When will we visit home next?
Whose house will we stay at?
…
You get the idea., right?
Right.
It can be overwhelming.
This causes a couple of kinds of problems.
Sometimes, I get simply get overwhelmed and have mini-meltdowns… you know, tears and anger for no reason…
…much to Hubs’ dismay.
It’s unfair to him to expect him to know how to get me out of my funk, when even I know I don’t have any reason to be acting that way.
The other problem is that I tend to overplan…everything.
As in, I send Hubs an email at 4:30 with our “plan” for the rest of the night. And I need to know weekend plans a few weekends in advance. And I make to-do lists and to-don’t lists and lists of lists…
Ok, maybe not lists of lists, but I did make a “sublist” a few weeks ago because I had so much to do.
Anyway, Hubs gets frustrated at me for making plans of plans for plans of the plan…
And then we sometimes fight.
But I have a theory that all this over-planning for all the little things comes from my inability to plan any of this big stuff in our life right now. It doesn’t excuse my tendencies to want to plan our plans…but it does help explain it, at least a little bit.
Makes sense to me.
And Hubs is learning I don’t always mean to be a drag with our plans.
And he’s learning to go with my plans.
In the same way I’m learning to go…with his flow.
And trying to keep taking it just one thing at a time, one day at a time, knowing that things will work out…because we believe this:
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” -Jeremiah 29:11-13
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” -John 14:27
What do you think? Does my plan planning make sense? How can I learn to let the little things go more easily when the big things are so unknown? Do you and your Hubs (or wife) disagree about things like this?
