Hubs and I don’t like to fight.
We don’t thrive on the drama.
We don’t enjoy feeling angry or upset.
But that doesn’t mean we’re always intentional like we should be.
Let me put it this way:
just because we aren’t intentional about picking fights with one another doesn’t mean we don’t have to be intentional about trying to avoid it prevent them.
Here’s an example.
Last night was a grumpy one for me. I’m feeling a little sick and trying to fight it off but I was tired and feeling a little overwhelmed by some big decisions in our life right now.
So I reacted poorly when Hubs sat on the couch playing on his computer while I put away three loads worth of laundry.
I didn’t mean to get angry…but that felt justified so I didn’t stop it. Then I said something negative, got huffy, and went to bed.
He reacted negatively to this, defending his actions by citing times he feels I ignore him when I’m on my computer.
And then we were fighting…right before bed…which is the worst time to fight.
If we had been more intentional about the incident, the fight could have been avoided.
I could have asked for help with the laundry instead of silently allowing myself to get more and more upset…when I knew he had no idea I was angry.
He could have called me on my negativity when I snapped at him instead of casually throwing out incidents in our conversion that felt like attacks to me in my already agitated mindset.
We’re still learning, but we’ll try to work on this more.
There are other aspects where being intentional is important too but this is enough for one night.
What about you? What things are you intentional about? What should you be more intentional about?