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Clutter, clutter everywhere… a housewife confession

Ok, so it’s no episode of hoarders over here, but it is pretty messy.

The dining room table is covered with clutter.

The coffee table is covered with clutter.

The love seat has clutter, the floor has clutter, the bathroom counter and bedroom floor have clutter.

It’s enough to make me real grumpy and a lot overwhelmed.

I really dislike having all this stuff sitting around making the house look messy. It makes my mind feel messy.

But when I get home from work and have other work to do, the stuff around here kind of piles up.

True, we work on it when we can, and when we feel like it, and we almost always have the kitchen nicely clean, but I can’t help but feel like I can’t really focus on the tasks I have to do when I’m thinking about how messy the house is. I hate having to clean up before I have space to start a project.

Maybe this is something I’ll get used to as we get more settled into marriage. I’m sure we’ll get grooves and rhythms and patterns of how we use our home and how we manage the everyday messes that occur. I certainly managed to function all through high school and college at my parents’ house when the floor in my room would get completely covered with clothes, books, and who knows what all else.

It’s not that I’m naturally one of those people that cleans all the time or has to put things away as soon as I use them.

I’m not like that at all. My mom will certainly vouch for that!

I’m in a hurry. I’m busy. I have things to do and people to see. I have jobs 1, 2, and 3 to balance.

But I also really hate to be surrounded by clutter. That’s why I keep my bookshelves as free from knick-knacks as possible and hesitate to set things on my counters. I like things neat.

I feel more at peace when I’m surrounded by a space that’s organized…

…even though I seldom take the time to organize as I go…

so I end up with a big pile of organizing to do all at once.

And then I get huffy and salty.

And Hubs gets annoyed that I’m huffy for no real reason.

After all, the house was messy yesterday, why am I suddenly freaking out over it?

It’s an endless cycle.

I have a feeling this is something that won’t go away unless we work on it. Life won’t slow down enough for us to always have a perfect house, and that’s fine. It’s perfectly fine. I don’t need a clean house all the time. I want our home to look loved and used and lived in. I just don’t want to have to move a giant pile of mail and half-folded-laundry every time I want to use the table for something.

Ideas?

Solutions?

I had an idea last night that Hubs and I should try to focus on cleaning at least one little area of the house each night before we go to bed. The table, the coffee table, the bathroom counter, the sides of the bed where we both end up with a pile of worn laundry….you get the idea.

That way, we’ll go to bed feeling like we accomplished something specific and tangible, and things won’t get so overwhelming for me to freak out over and get huffy and stomp around cleaning while Hubs sits on the couch looking at me with a confused look on my face.

See what I mean?

What about you? What keeps your house from getting clutter-crazy? How do you handle it when it feels overwhelmingly messy? Is this something that affects your marriage at all? Does it cause fights? I’d love some tips and tricks!

 

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Working Woman

Please note: The title of this post is not titled “Career Woman,” as I do not think my career will be defined by answering phones, making appointments, and attempting to organize the chaos of a busy shop on a busy day. However, I do like my job.

But, that being said, remember this post, when I was all optimistic about my new job?

Well, it’s not that I’m not still happy about the opportunity to make some money or that I dislike my job or the people I work with. It’s that when I work double shifts, like the past 2 days, I don’t see Hubs very much!

He gets up and goes to work, leaving by 7:20 or so. I usually am also up, making his lunch, sometimes making breakfast, sometimes struggling to keep my eyes open, but it’s not exactly quality time when I’m barely awake and he’s rushing to get out the door on the way to work.

But then I don’t see him until I get home at 9:15 or 9:30 (just because we close at 9, doesn’t mean I can leave at 9) and Hubs is usually tired and ready for bed by 10:15 or so. Not much quality time there.

Plus, I still need to adjust to not being home as much. I left the house with a pile of clean laundry on the floor that needed to be folded on Tuesday, and a messy MESSY kitchen on Wednesday.

Not that I think I need to always have a spotless home. Trust me, it’s usually a bit messy. And I don’t vacuum or mop our floors nearly enough. I do try to keep the dishes under control though, because we don’t have much kitchen to spare, and I like to fold the laundry right away so it doesn’t get wrinkled. I’m sure you guys understand this stuff, right?

And you’ll all be happy to know that Hubs has been super awesome this crazy work week for me. He made dinner on Saturday, Tuesday, and last night, though it was separate dinners last night since we didn’t eat together. He cleaned the kitchen on Monday night, including unloading the dishwasher, which I hate to do.

And he’s just been altogether a great helper and friend to me. As he should be as my husband.

I’m not trying to brag on him too much or show off my skills in selecting a great man. I’m also not trying to guilt him into doing more of this stuff (yes he reads all my posts) because honestly, I like doing all these things around the house (except the floors and the unloading of the dishwasher). It’s just that as my “helpmate suitable,” he knows when I need and want help and is willing to fill my bucket in that way.

(For more on what I think about helpmates, read this post.)

So, since I now have less that an hour before I have to be at work, I need to get up and get going. Dressing up for work every day is fine, except that it takes me a lot longer to get ready than I’ve been used to. Not that I don’t try to look nice for everyday stuff with Hubs, it’s just that it takes time to put on eye make up and put together a new outfit every day. I’m out of practice at all this, after all!

So while I’m trying to not complain at all about this job, I am so looking forward to a weekend off to take a little trip. We’ll have time to see friends, eat cookies, talk in the car (no radio after all, remember?), see lots and lots of glorious Christmas lights, hang out with my family, shop for presents, and eat out, though mostly, I’m just excited for a little husband and wife quality time together to just be us and relax and have fun doing things we used to love when we were dating. (And some things we didn’t do while we were dating!)

It’s going to be spectacular. But I have to get through the next double shift at work. Wish me luck!

 

 

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Advice from You: Chores…

Can someone please tell me how there’s always so much laundry and dishes to be done?

I mean, there’s just two of us…how does the work pile up that fast? I do it every day.

Any advice on what brings order to the chore list? Any secrets for keeping it neat longer? What about suggestions for tips or tricks to get it done faster or better?

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Confessions of a Bad Housewife…or rather, a happy one

I try to be pretty positive overall, but sometimes, I just need to get my complaints out in the open so I can move on.

So, in order to satisfy both my need to whine a little and my desire to be happy and joyful in all circumstances, I’m going to list pairs of both bad AND good stuff for you guys this Monday morning. We’ll consider it an exercise in finding the silver lining of any situation.

1. I do so much laundry! I’m unsure how a household of only two people can make this much dirty laundry! What will it be like when we have kids? It’s a good thing we (and by that I mean, “I”) have so many clothes because it means I don’t have to wash everything as often. Wyatt runs out of stuff so fast I have to keep washing and washing and washing…

That's a mountain of laundry for me to fold. Good grief!

The good part of this complaint? Well, I actually like to do laundry. I mean, I wouldn’t pick that over fun stuff like playing games or date nights or sleeping in, but as far as household chores go, it’s not a bad deal. I like things that show immediate progress, and I like how fast I can empty our hamper with just a few loads. Folding is the worst part because I don’t like turning clothes right-side out. I’m working on having Wyatt turn his before they go in the hamper, but even I sometimes don’t mess with turning sweaty workout clothes right side out. Anyway, I also like laundry because it smells nice (when it’s done) and it’s warm. I wish I could curl up in laundry fresh from the dryer and take a nap.

2. Cleaning the kitchen is a never-ending job. I don’t know how it gets so messy so fast.

Actually, I do. It’s because I cook a lot and our kitchen is tiny. And yes, we have a dishwasher, which is great, but it doesn’t really work that well. We end up having to pre-wash everything anyway, and still not everything comes clean, especially silverware…and plates…and cups.

Yes, apparently today I am baring all to show you my messy kitchen.

But the good part of a messy kitchen? It means we ate well, we have good food, and a place to cook. I love to cook and bake and cleaning the kitchen is sort of calming (when I’m not in a hurry to make the next meal or wash a dish so I can keep working on whatever meal I’m currently fixing) and I actually don’t mind washing dishes. I wish we had better scrubbing brushes (we are using cheap sponges that we wash all the time in our washing machine so they are starting to fall apart).

3. It’s too early (Wyatt says) to decorate our apartment for Christmas. And he’s right. But I’m impatient. I wish I had money to go buy a lot of new beautiful things or even supplies to make things, but I think it’s more important that we save right now, especially with the holidays coming up.

But the blessing of this? I decorated for Thanksgiving. Sort of, as much as I can for relatively free.

Fruit in our cool bowl from the in-laws and pumpkins, free from my grandma's garden.

Not super creative, but I don’t have anything else, and these were free (except the apples…)

What I did spend my money on, decor-wise.

It’s a free design from eighteen25, a cool blog I found on Pinterest. Speaking of that? Do you follow me?

I just bought a cheap wood frame from Walmart for $4 and painted it white with leftover paint from our wedding DIY projects. And the candlestick? It was a prop for my Miss Scarlet costume that Hubs spray painted white for me.

And the bird? He’s our (my) love bird. I found him at a local garage sale one day when I was running in the neighborhood by our apartment. He’s exactly what I wanted. I know he isn’t fall-themed, but I still like him and didn’t want to remove him from his roost.

4. Wyatt forgot his lunch. Again.

Dangit.

Not only do I feel bad for not noticing until after he left, but it means he has to buy his lunch today when we have this perfectly good one here at home.

But the hidden silver lining? I will have this one ready tomorrow morning already. And he doesn’t mind buying lunch, he actually likes that better I think.

5. I had to put the spider traps back down today since I forgot to have Wyatt do it. Touching those things gives me the creeps? Why? Because they both have like 5 dead poisonous spiders in them!

There's 5 or so dead spiders "living" under our hamper...but don't worry, when we have guests, we hide them away.

But the good part is that I haven’t seen any new spiders in there or anywhere for months. Though I did kill a wasp in our bathtub the other day. Ick.

6. This is my coffee table at it’s current state.

See that stack of bills and other mail to take care of? Oh joy.

But that’s okay, because my Husband is off at work today to earn the money to pay those bills, and you know what? I opened my first check from freelancing today. So, yes, I am blessed today to pay these bills, because for the first time in a long time, I have income.

(“But my God shall supply all your needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19)

And while we’re talking money, you know what else? I fed Mr. Giraffe E. Pig seventeen cents a couple of days ago. And a twenty-five cents the day after that.

 

This is Mr. Giraffe E. Pig. I like to feed him pennies, but he prefers quarters, of course.

Saving cents is one of my favorite pastimes.

So there’s my list for the day. I’m feeling better all ready. Because yes, I got out my Monday morning grumps, but I also took the time to look past the problems and see some good stuff, because let’s face it, there’s always more good stuff if you choose to find it, right?

And what’s even better? As I was sitting at home this morning, I realized what a blessing it is that I can stay here and take care of our home. I have the blessing of not doing laundry on the weekends if I don’t want to, because I can do it on Monday. And I don’t have to do dishes on Sunday nights if I don’t want to, because they’ll be there in the morning and I’d rather spend Sunday nights on the couch cuddling with my Hubs.

Yes, it’s been hard to figure out how to redefine my place in the world with no job, but I’m getting there, and every day brings new possibilities, whether it’s volunteer work, or a freelancing job. And I’m trusting in the sovereignty of the Master’s plan.

What about you? What are you seeing the silver lining in today? Any housekeeping confessions you’d like to share to make me feel better about my mess this morning?

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